I have this ongoing relationship with a person who is SO MEAN to me. I do my best to remain calm and breath deeply to aleviate the anxiety and flight or flight response I get whenever I see, hear, text or think of this person.
My anxiety levels have been so bad in the past that I thought I was having a heart attack. The entire left side of my body was numb from shoulder to toes, my chest had stabbing sharp pains and I could barely breathe.
I would LOVE if this person vanished from my life. The stress created form them is immesurable and far worse that anything I have ever experienced in the past because it is ongoing, chronic triggering.
But I have many tools now.
Breathing is key. I prefer square breathing, 4 in, 4 hold, 4 out, 4 hold.
The next tool is this... knowing that all relationship are mirrors and there is something here for me to learn. I get this opportunity not only to stand up for myselfand speak my truth but to also practice kind boundaries.
Kind boundaries treat others with basic respect for the divine being that THEY are, and also say NO to being taken advantage of again and again.
Just being kind IS LOVE. YOu do NOT need to bend over backwards for those who abuse you mentally, verbally, emotionally or physically!
If you understand ANY of these abuse types, chances are you are a greatly empathetic person and feel deeply the suffering of others and feel like you can help them! news flash.... You Can NOT help them!
The only way for them to be able to receive help, is to hit thier rock bottom and start to look up. If you are continually helping them, they will never hit it. You are actually depriving them of thier depth.
Lately I have been choosing kindness with massive boundaries in place. For my OWN sanity. There is a lot going on right now in the wold and my own capacity to live IS my greatest priority. I can not give energy that I dont have. Love, kindness is energy. Every good deed counts, ESPECIALLY the love you show yourself.
It's okay to FEEL hatred, we are humans, born of the Earth into this duality. Feel it! Alchemize it by sitting with it and listening to your soul. Hear yourself! Then let it go and remember that relationships are reflections for us to learn from. Honoring YOURSELF, is how you teach others to honor themselves. You can NOT teach this by giving, giving, giving. You teach by BEING.
The love you show yourself shifts the energy all around you and others DO feel it.
Great Spirit, give me strength today as I hold my boundaries with kind power. Give my brothers and sisters the strength to be kind first to themselves and then to those around them. Give us strength to claim responsibility for our own wellbeing and to stop looking externally for a savior.
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You are The One.
XOK
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